How is our love different?
LGBT Rights. What is the first word that pops up in your mind? Abnormal? Unethical? Disgusting? Neutral? Diversification? Acceptance?
For those who are for, I am glad to see that people like you do exist. The same goes for those who are neutral about this subject, I mean you are not meddling into the lives of other people and that’s cool.
Now for those who are against, I really have a great issue. Not because you have a negative opinion, because let’s face it, we are in a free country and you can be as pessimistic as you wish to. I have a huge issue rather, because you are depriving someone of his/her right as a human. The right to love and to be loved. And this, my dear friend, is downright horrible.
It is true that we are all living in a democratic country which comes with a bunch of rights we are all entitled to regardless of our age, gender or colour. One of the basic rights that we have is the right to have an opinion and to voice out. However, we should be aware that every right also carries a limit to it. It is great to have an opinion as long as it is not downgrading and restrictive to someone else.
One of the most common arguments I have personally heard as to why homosexuality is unacceptable is that it is not normal. I have a simple question for you. Please define normal. A century ago, flying was not normal, man travelling in space was not normal, mobile phones and all the recent technologies we possess now were not normal, not being a racist was not normal, not hating the Jews was not normal, fighting for the rights of slaves, the Blacks and the Immigrants was not normal, and do you really want me to continue listing everything down? There is no such thing as normal. There never has been. There is only change, open-mindedness and acceptance.
Religiously speaking, there is quite a lot of hypocrisy among religious-fanatic people. They take pride in saying that they follow their religion and religious books word to word. Last time I checked, religious books never mentioned the existence of all the new medication that now exist, preservatives for sexual intercourse, in-vitro fertilisation, surrogacy, cars, aeroplanes, and I could go on. But my point is, we are still making use of them, aren’t we? It’s so funny that we are okay with things only if it suits us. If it doesn’t, we bring out the religion card. Would it be too late to remind you again that we are living in a democracy, where secularism is one of the basic foundations?
As an atheist, I have no faith in some supreme power, but let me just assume for some minutes that it does exist. Here are the questions that come to my mind. If there really was something that created us, don’t you think it would have only created beings it wanted to exist? If it really was like a parental figure, do you really think it would wish us harm, oppression and wish our deaths? If it really was such a super being, wouldn’t it have got rid of those who are not ‘wanted’ ever since the beginning of human existence? (Yes, homosexuality has existed for thousands of years, long before civilization.)
Biologically speaking, I have heard two questions often: how can homosexual couples have children and how are we going to ensure humanity’s survival if we legalize homosexuality? To answer the first question, homosexual couples have children through adoption, in-vitro fertilization or surrogacy, just like any other heterosexual infertile couple for that matter. To answer the second one, according to statistics, less than 10% of the world population is not heterosexual which, according to logic, is a really small portion. Also, homosexuality has been omnipresent ever since we can remember. Do you still think legalizing it will end humanity’s line when we have been populating the earth like rabbits?
I have conducted a survey where I asked people why they loved their partner. They responded by listing down all the personality traits they loved in their other half, for example, their kindness and their humour. But not even once did I hear a physical trait, especially the sexual organ. I came to a conclusion. There is a huge difference between procreation and love. Procreating is just about producing offspring to ensure our species’ survival, but love is on another level. Love is not materialistic. Love is not about how you look or whether you have a vagina or a penis. Love is about the soul to soul connection. Love is about the caring and the understanding that exists between two souls. So, why are we still so adamant on defining love as a man loving a woman and vice versa solely?
The next argument from conservatives mainly is about how sodomy is illegal and a disgrace. For those who are not aware, sodomy is sexual intercourse per the anus. First off, it is neither mine nor your business as to what people do in their homes, as long as there is no domestic violence involved. Secondly, sodomy is not only practised by gay couples but also by, cue the drum roll and the dramatic music, by heterosexual couples as well! Thirdly, are you seriously preventing someone from doing whatever they want to do with their body? Who are you to them? Fourth, if you believe that sodomy is unethical, don’t practice it, but who are you to impose your beliefs on someone who doesn’t even know you?
My all-time theory is that humans are scared. Humans are scared of change. Humans are scared of anything or anyone who does not relate to the majority. We have engraved a system in our society where anyone who is a minority is oppressed or alienated. We were once scared of those who looked physically different, we were once scared of those who had a different skin tone, we were once scared of those who had different religious beliefs and we are now scared of those who love differently than us. We have become such professionals at marginalising and categorizing that we refuse to let go of this bad habit. Hence, we react negatively to anyone who challenges the already existing beliefs, culture and norms.
There is a great line in a movie I watched recently that I would like to share with you. The movie is called “Love Is All You Need?”. It is an alternate world where being homosexual was the norm and being heterosexual was not. The phrase is from a 12-year-old girl who was bullied because she was a heterosexual, and eventually tried to commit suicide. She said, and I quote, “How is our love different from theirs?”
On this note, I would like you to ponder on this question and find an unprejudiced answer to it.
Sending buckets full of love your way,
Kavya H. Saikia 🌸
For those who are for, I am glad to see that people like you do exist. The same goes for those who are neutral about this subject, I mean you are not meddling into the lives of other people and that’s cool.
Now for those who are against, I really have a great issue. Not because you have a negative opinion, because let’s face it, we are in a free country and you can be as pessimistic as you wish to. I have a huge issue rather, because you are depriving someone of his/her right as a human. The right to love and to be loved. And this, my dear friend, is downright horrible.
It is true that we are all living in a democratic country which comes with a bunch of rights we are all entitled to regardless of our age, gender or colour. One of the basic rights that we have is the right to have an opinion and to voice out. However, we should be aware that every right also carries a limit to it. It is great to have an opinion as long as it is not downgrading and restrictive to someone else.
One of the most common arguments I have personally heard as to why homosexuality is unacceptable is that it is not normal. I have a simple question for you. Please define normal. A century ago, flying was not normal, man travelling in space was not normal, mobile phones and all the recent technologies we possess now were not normal, not being a racist was not normal, not hating the Jews was not normal, fighting for the rights of slaves, the Blacks and the Immigrants was not normal, and do you really want me to continue listing everything down? There is no such thing as normal. There never has been. There is only change, open-mindedness and acceptance.
Religiously speaking, there is quite a lot of hypocrisy among religious-fanatic people. They take pride in saying that they follow their religion and religious books word to word. Last time I checked, religious books never mentioned the existence of all the new medication that now exist, preservatives for sexual intercourse, in-vitro fertilisation, surrogacy, cars, aeroplanes, and I could go on. But my point is, we are still making use of them, aren’t we? It’s so funny that we are okay with things only if it suits us. If it doesn’t, we bring out the religion card. Would it be too late to remind you again that we are living in a democracy, where secularism is one of the basic foundations?
As an atheist, I have no faith in some supreme power, but let me just assume for some minutes that it does exist. Here are the questions that come to my mind. If there really was something that created us, don’t you think it would have only created beings it wanted to exist? If it really was like a parental figure, do you really think it would wish us harm, oppression and wish our deaths? If it really was such a super being, wouldn’t it have got rid of those who are not ‘wanted’ ever since the beginning of human existence? (Yes, homosexuality has existed for thousands of years, long before civilization.)
Biologically speaking, I have heard two questions often: how can homosexual couples have children and how are we going to ensure humanity’s survival if we legalize homosexuality? To answer the first question, homosexual couples have children through adoption, in-vitro fertilization or surrogacy, just like any other heterosexual infertile couple for that matter. To answer the second one, according to statistics, less than 10% of the world population is not heterosexual which, according to logic, is a really small portion. Also, homosexuality has been omnipresent ever since we can remember. Do you still think legalizing it will end humanity’s line when we have been populating the earth like rabbits?
I have conducted a survey where I asked people why they loved their partner. They responded by listing down all the personality traits they loved in their other half, for example, their kindness and their humour. But not even once did I hear a physical trait, especially the sexual organ. I came to a conclusion. There is a huge difference between procreation and love. Procreating is just about producing offspring to ensure our species’ survival, but love is on another level. Love is not materialistic. Love is not about how you look or whether you have a vagina or a penis. Love is about the soul to soul connection. Love is about the caring and the understanding that exists between two souls. So, why are we still so adamant on defining love as a man loving a woman and vice versa solely?
The next argument from conservatives mainly is about how sodomy is illegal and a disgrace. For those who are not aware, sodomy is sexual intercourse per the anus. First off, it is neither mine nor your business as to what people do in their homes, as long as there is no domestic violence involved. Secondly, sodomy is not only practised by gay couples but also by, cue the drum roll and the dramatic music, by heterosexual couples as well! Thirdly, are you seriously preventing someone from doing whatever they want to do with their body? Who are you to them? Fourth, if you believe that sodomy is unethical, don’t practice it, but who are you to impose your beliefs on someone who doesn’t even know you?
My all-time theory is that humans are scared. Humans are scared of change. Humans are scared of anything or anyone who does not relate to the majority. We have engraved a system in our society where anyone who is a minority is oppressed or alienated. We were once scared of those who looked physically different, we were once scared of those who had a different skin tone, we were once scared of those who had different religious beliefs and we are now scared of those who love differently than us. We have become such professionals at marginalising and categorizing that we refuse to let go of this bad habit. Hence, we react negatively to anyone who challenges the already existing beliefs, culture and norms.
There is a great line in a movie I watched recently that I would like to share with you. The movie is called “Love Is All You Need?”. It is an alternate world where being homosexual was the norm and being heterosexual was not. The phrase is from a 12-year-old girl who was bullied because she was a heterosexual, and eventually tried to commit suicide. She said, and I quote, “How is our love different from theirs?”
On this note, I would like you to ponder on this question and find an unprejudiced answer to it.
Sending buckets full of love your way,
Kavya H. Saikia 🌸
Such powerful words ! I love your article ❤
ReplyDeleteThank you Jasen! 🌸
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