Victim blaming
“When you are in public, please wear decent clothes that cover your body well to prevent this from happening to you”, strongly advised a person in a position of authority in a school assembly a few years ago following the sexual assault of a teenage girl. I was shocked and very much outraged. Perhaps my reaction was exaggerated and perhaps it still is, but I could not ignore the ridiculous message hidden behind those words. A certain message that seems to have been so well imbibed by the majority of us. The universal understanding being, cue the drumroll, we are partly to be blamed if we have been sexually assaulted. Now let me present you with a different scenario, yeah? Let’s say you are casually walking down the street and some random person just stabs you with a knife. Who is to be blamed? Would you say that you are to be held liable for not having worn a full body armour or would you rather agree that it’s the person who stabbed you who should be taking the whole bl...